soulful abundance

A blessing from a blog

2010-09-01T18:55:00.000-04:00

I have recently had the honor of meeting a lovely young woman, Sundi Jo, through LinkedIn. I've only just begun exploring her blog, but every post I've read so far has been a divine blessing. I'm new to LinkedIn too, and already it's obvious that the majority of people are using it to establish professional relationships, which is fine, but I thank God that there are also many who are using this tremendous tool to share the Good News of His love, grace, and mercy.

If you want to see first-hand how God is moving in the lives of young people today, visit her blog. I will be - often.

An important lesson I learned from my weeds

2010-05-08T08:34:00.000-04:00

I'd planned write bills first thing this morning. Fortunately, I went outside to get the paper first. Even though I walk past my overgrown flower bed several times a day, I knew that this morning was the time to spend a few minutes clearing the weeds. The morning was so beautiful that I just couldn't resist spending a few minutes enjoying the weather and doing something that needed to be done.

Before I started, the flower bed looked like this:

Although it's not obvious from the picture, some of the weeds had dainty little flowers on them. To be honest, if they'd been in a flower pot, I wouldn't have known they were weeds. The more I thought about that, the more disturbing the thought became. That's because I began to wonder what other things in my life look pretty, and harmless, on the surface, but really aren't?

According to Wikipedia, a weed is generic term used to describe a plant that is deemed to be a nuisance because it grows in places where it is unwanted, such as gardens or lawns. Widipedia goes on to say that

"Weeds may be unwanted for a number of reasons: they might be unsightly, or crowd out or restrict light to more desirable plants or use limited nutrients from the soil. They can harbor and spread plant pathogens that infect and degrade the quality of crop or horticultural plants. Some weeds are a nuisance because they have thorns or prickles, some have chemicals that cause skin irritation or are hazardous if eaten, or have parts that come off and attach to fur or clothes."

Wow!

After about 20 minutes, my flowerbed looked like this:

Yes, it still needs a lot of work, and yes, I'd really like to replace the ugly shredded bark that my Dad likes to use for mulch. But the point is that now that I understand the consequences of weeds, I'm glad I removed them. More importantly, now I need to start looking for the other types of weeds in my life and root them out as well.

Volunteer Opportunities

2010-04-28T18:51:00.000-04:00

AARP has introduced a new online tool, CreatetheGood, which you can use to find volunteer opportunities in your area. Whether you've got 5 minutes, an entire day, or you're looking for an ongoing commitment, this web site probably has something for you. Just enter your zip code and find something that suits you. You'll be glad you did.

My therapy dog

2010-04-22T06:20:00.002-04:00

I knew shortly after I brought Bailey home in February that I wanted to train him to be a therapy dog when he gets older. What I didn't know was that six weeks later I'd be having emergency eye surgery that would really take it's toll on me. Despite all the abrupt changes in our schedule, and the sudden addition of "grandma" who stayed with us for two weeks to take care of me, Bailey has been remarkably resilient.

While our play time isn't as vigorous now as it was during the weeks before surgery, our snuggle time continues to be a high point of our days. Nothing relaxes me like having Bailey lay quietly with me, watching tv and/or thinking about whatever it is that puppies think about. Having him fall asleep in my lap is equally adorable, even though he snores like a tiny freight train.

It's interesting how God brings us what we need, even before we know we need it. I never thought that I'd be Bailey's first "patient". When it comes to therapy dogs, he's a natural.

2010-04-15T20:45:00.000-04:00

"A true friend sees the first tear... catches the second... and stops the third." - Author unknown

What a beautiful sentiment. I thank God for my true friends.

A small miracle

2010-04-13T18:03:00.000-04:00

I haven't been posting about it here, but I recently had a retina detached, which ended in emergency eye surgery. Today I experienced a small miracle in the healing process for which I am truly thankful. I wrote about it here.

A guilty pleasure

2010-01-30T14:19:00.001-05:00

One of my guilty pleasures it to read a good horoscope now and then. Someone forwarded this one to me today. Even though I'm not a Sagitarian, I think it's an awesome quote from Rob Brezny's Free Will on 1/28/10:

"Many of the significant problems in our lives are more about recognizing the obvious rather than discovering the mysterious or hidden. One of the classic ways we deceive and hide from ourselves is by refusing to recognize the obvious, and shrouding what is right before us in rationalization and false complexity. We often delay and deny necessary transformation by claiming that there is a mysterious answer hidden from us, when actually we know the answers but pretend that we don't."

The gift of music

2010-01-21T19:29:00.001-05:00

I've been feeling very blue for the past several days. I understand why, and I'm okay with it because grieving is a natural emotion that accompanies loss. But after a few days of complete and total lethargy, I've decided it's time to do something with my pain, to honor it, to allow it to be, so that I can eventually move on.

Tonight I remembered something that I used to know... that music has an incredibly powerful calming effect. Perhaps it's the beauty of creative expression. Or maybe it's the heartfelt certainty that someone else has experienced similar emotions, and they are able to express them in ways that I cannot. Whatever the reason, no matter how low I sometimes sink, music is always able to lift my spirits.

I took piano lessons for most of my childhood. It wasn't until I was much older that my mother told me that as a teenager, she could always tell when I was sad or under stress. Those were the times that she never had to remind me that I was supposed to practice at least an hour a day. Not only did I get my requisite hour in without a fuss, but I apparently lost track of time, got lost in my music, and played for much longer. I bought another piano a few years ago, but it's been sitting quietly in my living room. Perhaps it's time to revisit that habit.

In the meantime, tonight I'm thankful for YouTube and all the P.J. DJs who post music and videos on line for the rest of us to listen to for free. I've created a few playlists so that I'll have appropriate music available for whatever mood hits me. Right now I'm working on one called "Weepfest" which has some of my favorite songs that are so beautiful, or so expressive in their lyrics, that they make me cry. I know it may sound weird, but scientists have actually studied the physiological effects of crying and have found it to be beneficial. To read more on this, click here, here, and here. Now that I've had a good cry, I feel much better.

2010-01-21T18:06:00.000-05:00

This prayer landed in my email box today. I thought I'd share it here:

May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us.

A soulfully abundant statement of faith

2010-01-05T19:57:00.000-05:00

The following Gathering Statement was posted in this past Sunday's bulletin at my church. It is my statement of faith for the New Year.

I am part of the fellowship of the unashamed. I have Holy Spirit power. The die has been cast. I've stepped over the line. The decision has been made. I am a disciple of His. I won't look back, let up, slow down, back away, or be still.

My past is redeemed, my present makes sense, and my future is secure. I am finished and done with low living, sight walking, small planning, smooth knees, colorless dreams, tame visions, mundane talking, chintzy giving, and dwarfed goals!

I no longer need preeminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits, or popularity. I don't have to be right, first, tops, recognized, praised, regarded, or rewarded. I now live by presence, lean by faith, love by patience, lift by prayer and labor by power.

My face is set, my goal is fast, my goal is heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions are few, my guide reliable, my mission clear. I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, diluted, or delayed.

I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of adversity, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity.

I won't give up, shut up, let up, or burn up till I've reached up, prayed up, paid up, stored up, and stayed up for the cause of Christ. I am a discipline of Jesus. I must go till He comes, give till I drop, preach till all know, and work till He stops. And when He comes, He'll have no problem recognizing me because I'll be standing on His promises, shouting his praise and doing His will.

My 6 favorite life hacks

2010-01-02T07:45:00.001-05:00

One of the most important strategies for living a life of soulful abundance is learning to embrace the idea of simplicity. When our lives our simpler, we tend to have less stress, feel less overwhelmed, spend less money, accomplish more, and have more time to enjoy what's truly important to us. I've spent the last few months searching for and experimenting with different tools that will help me simplify my life in significant ways without spending a lot of money to do so.

The following six tools made my list, and together, they provide a solution to just about every time-consuming, necessary but unpleasant, and/or stress-inducing task I have. Even better, three of the six are FREE and the others cost less than $60 each.

Google (Free): Google's free e-mail software is great. I was first attracted to the fact that I no longer have to worry about deleting e-mails because my mailbox is full. But I quickly learned that opening an e-mail account full of thousands of useless and out-dated e-mails was yet another source of stress. Google's label, archive, filter and search functions have helped me learn to manage my e-mail box quickly and efficiently. But Google's usefulness doesn't end there. I use Google Docs as a no-cost web server of sorts, allowing me to access project files from both my desktop in my home office and my laptop from anywhere that I have internet access. I'm using Google Sites to build project websites to collaborate with clients/customers and of course, Google's Blogger is a personal favorite site of mine.
YNAB (You Need a Budget) ($59.99): I've been using this awesome budgeting and financial planning software for two years now and it has totally transformed my relationship with money. I went through two brief periods that I fell off the financial wagon (didn't keep my records updated) and I felt totally off-balance and out of control. I no longer live from pay check to pay check, I can easily and painlessly keep my checkbook register balanced and I sleep better at night knowing that I control my finances, not the other way around. From planning for large recurring and special expenditures throughout the year to saving significant sums of money in a short period of time, this software has been a God-send.
FreedomFiler (from $32.95): With a full life and two home-based businesses, coupled with a life-long distaste for filing, I used to find myself drowning in papers. In addition to spending unacceptable amounts of time looking for misplaced papers, forgetting about things I wanted to do because I couldn't find my reminders, and yes, even occasionally forgetting to pay bills that I had misplaced, I often found myself getting physically ill when I looked at all the clutter in my home office. FreedomFiler has changed all that. This simple-to-use filing system is unlike anything I've ever seen and has made figuring out what to keep and what to toss a snap. Now every piece of paper that I choose to keep in my office has a place to call home.
KeePass (FREE): More and more of the websites I frequent require passwords. At the same time the increasing incidence of online identity theft is making me think more carefully about the passwords I chose and about not using the same password for every site, which I used to do to make my life easier. No more worries with KeePass. This free little utility requires that I remember one password to open it, and then I can create an entry for each website which lists the URL, user ID and password for each. I can cut and paste as needed, knowing that my passwords are secure and a few extra brain cells are available for more pressing matters.
ExcelSquare ($11.25): This is by far the best project planning tool I've ever used - and I've used several. From managing my recent home purchase and renovation to developing an implementation plan to roll out my new business, this sophisticated but user-friendly Excel application is perfect for keeping me on track and on schedule.
Vertex42's Printable Daily Planner (FREE): I think I've tried virtually every planner/personal organizer system out there, which little long-term success. The benefits of using a daily planner are immense, but the logistics of finding a system that is effective and user-friendly enough to use on a daily basis is more of a challenge. I've tried software programs such as Outlook, hard-copy planners such as Day-Runner, At-A-Glance, and even the beautiful, but very expensive, Franklin Covey systems. Vertex42 has created a very simple but complete one-page Excel template that has room for appointments/work schedule, daily task list, people to call, expenses, and important things to remember. I downloaded it to my desktop, and print a month's worth of pages at a time (the template includes a perpetual calendar). I keep the previous month, current month and next month pages in a small 3-ring binder and I use the blank back pages for extra notes as needed. Sure, it takes a few minutes to print a month's worth of pages, but I have the functionality of a Franklin-Covey planner for the cost less than a ream of paper and ink it takes to print it.

I hope you'll find some of these tools useful. If so, please let me know. And, if you know of others, please post a comment. I'm always open to trying new things.

Wishing you a simpler, prosperous and abundantly soulful New Year!

Reflections on 2009

2009-12-31T08:24:00.000-05:00

Each year at this time I spend some time reflecting on the accomplishments and lessons learned from the outgoing year. It helps me set the stage for the New Year and provide clarity and context for my primary goals for the incoming year.

In many ways, 2009 was my best year yet. Of course there were disappointments and setbacks, but this year was the first year that I was consistently able to see the lessons - and the blessings - in the midst of the trial, instead of months or years later. My spiritual maturity is not where I want it to be, but it is so much deeper than ever before, and I saw the fruits of that this year.

Lessons Learned:

Before asking for God's direction, I must first genuinely commit to being obedient, even if I don't understand the reason behind His leading. In four specific instances this year, I waited to pray for God's direction on a challenging situation until I was certain that I was committed to doing what He said. In each case, I suspected that His answer would be the most difficult, and least "PC", solution and that I needed to be prepared to move in spite of the reactions of those around me who probably wouldn't understand. In three of the four situations, I was rewarded beyond my greatest expectations and, perhaps more importantly, God used my circumstances to witness to others about the blessings of obedience. I don't yet know how the fourth situation will turn out, but I can rest in the knowledge that I did what I felt God asked me to do. What happens now is on Him.
When in doubt, ask God for confirmation. God knows our hearts better than we do. While it may irritate me when people constantly ask for clarification on something I thought I'd made clear, God isn't like that. I believe that it pleases Him that we ask for confirmation when we're unsure. Every time I ask for confirmation, I get it, and sometimes in the most delightful and startling ways.
God brings people and situations to us for a reason. No relationship or encounter is an accident. However, it's important to realize that everything isn't always about me. Many times people come into my life to teach me things, but just as often, and usually without my awareness, God uses me to teach or to touch others. It's hard to believe, and very humbling, but I know it's true. My challenge is to do my best to be the best student and teacher that I can possibly be, even when I'm not consciously aware of the lesson.
More is not necessarily better. I grew up believing the hype that productive people had lots of balls in the air, using every waking moment to accomplish as much as possible during the course of the day. Success was to be measured by the number of tangible accomplishments visible at the end of the day. The old saying that "a Jack of all trades is a master of none" is true. This year I've learned a beautiful lesson - that less truly is more. Whether it's material possessions, "friends", or items checked off a to do list, doing or owning a lot of "stuff" rarely reflects success of any sort. By purging my material possessions, learning to happily live on less, letting go of relationships that were no longer working for my best good, and focusing on one thing at a time, my life is calmer, less stressful, and more peaceful. And, surprisingly, by focusing on what's important and letting the rest of the stuff go, I've gotten more done and the fruits have been so much sweeter.
Emotional integrity is key. Learning to set emotional boundaries in a world in which they are sorely lacking has been a challenge for me. Through trial and error (mostly error), I've learned that not all problems are my problems, I can only do what I can do. I need to continue to do the emotional work of being honest and authentic, even if it isolates me from others. But at the same time, I have to realize that others have their own work to do, and they must choose their own journey and the pace at which they travel it. At the end of the day, what God thinks of me, and what I think of myself, are much more important, and more lasting, than what anyone else thinks.
I need to write more and talk less. Those that know me personally know that I love to talk. Words are important to me and I work hard to be emotionally honest and articulate when sharing my thoughts with others. However, this year I've become painfully aware that my words are often wasted on people who either cannot or will not hear them. Much of it goes back to #5. I know that many times people don't "hear" me because they don't like or agree with what I have to say. It's not that I'm looking for validation. I love a good, honest debate as much as the next person. What pains me is not being heard at all... being ignored as if I'd never spoken at all. The emotional energy that I lose in these exchanges is taxing, and I've come to understand that this is energy that can be better expended elsewhere. Ironically, the responses (often from strangers) to my writing seem to be much more rewarding. Perhaps it's because the only people who read my book, blogs or other writings are those that are at least peripherally interested in what I have to say. They don't always agree, and that's fine. The feedback isn't always immediate, or direct, but putting my written words out there fulfills my intense need to express myself. And, the knowledge that someone somewhere someday may be moved by my words in some small way is enough for me.

I thank God for a wonderful old year and I thank Him in advance for making 2010 my best year ever!

Happy New Year!

A painful lesson

2009-11-05T08:26:00.000-05:00

God is so awesome. Even in the midst of painful situations that we've brought upon ourselves, He has a way of teaching us beautiful lessons. I just wrote about what I've learned from my recent fall here.

A great read on voluntary simplicity

2009-10-06T21:52:00.000-04:00

I'm not sure that my core motivations are the same, but here's a great summary of the concept of voluntary simplicity that I'm trying to embrace in my life. Looks like an interesting blog.

The power of feeling empowered

2009-09-26T20:15:00.003-04:00

Today I took a class in laying tile at Home Depot. After I close on my new house next week, my first project is to renovate the kitchen. Yes, I'm doing most of the work myself. No, I've never done it before. But just because I've never done something before doesn't mean that I can't. I've successfully accomplished countless firsts in my life. And I've committed equally as many blunders, none of which were life-ending for me or anyone else. In fact, I'm better because of them. So, I'm educating myself, talking to professionals, reading how-to articles and watching how-to videos, and I'm ready to get started.

When I hit my first glitch, which I almost certainly will, I'm going to remember a story I heard in my class today. A woman attended the same class a while ago, and informed the instructor that she was going to redo her kitchen herself and she wanted to learn all she could so that she'd do a good job. She said that she'd never done anything like this before, but didn't see why she couldn't do it. Several weeks later, the woman returned to the store with pictures of her new kitchen. The instructor, having over 30 years of experience in tiling, said that she had done a wonderful job and her kitchen looked as if she'd hired a professional or done many kitchens before.

What's so amazing about this story is that the woman was 90 years old! My first thought was "Wow, I'd really like to meet this woman and have her show me her kitchen." I was so inspired by her courage, her tenacity and her energy to take on a project of this magnitude. But perhaps more importantly, I was struck by the fact that she could have easily decided that she'd lived all her life without the kitchen of her dreams, and she wasn't going to live much longer anyway, so it would be senseless to "waste" the money, time and effort on creating a new kitchen. That's exactly what I think most people would have concluded under the circumstances. This woman, bless her heart, gives new meaning to living a full life and following your dreams, wherever they may lead.

I've been thinking about that woman all afternoon and God's mandate to me is clear. If that 90-year-old woman can not only redo her own kitchen, but do a beautiful job at it, what excuse could you possibly come up with for not doing yours? I'm starting on Saturday.

Home is where God is

2009-09-26T07:40:00.002-04:00

Were the truth to be told, I think many of my family and friends thought I was crazy when I told them 6 weeks ago that I'd decided to buy a house. And, that may have been their truth. But it wasn't mine. And it wasn't God's.

On August 10th, I sent an e-mail to 10 people asking if any could recommend a good realtor. I told them that I was looking for a pre-foreclosure, in a decent neighborhood, that wasn't expensive. I don't make a lot of money and I didn't have a lot of cash on hand. But what I did have was the belief that the undeniably strong pull towards making "the move" now, was not coming from me. I believed that God was ready to move not only my living space, but my spiritual space as well to a new season... now. The only question was whether or not I was ready.

Within two hours I received an email response from a woman I know from church, who's opinion I trust. She said knew of the "perfect" realtor for me. And she was right. Bernard and I spoke for the first time on the evening of Wednesday, August 12. By noon the next day I had been pre-qualified for a lender! We looked at five houses on our first outing on Saturday. I was very disappointed. But I didn't give up, and neither did Bernard. We looked at two houses on Sunday. The minute I set foot inside House #6, I knew it would be my home. On Tuesday evening I made an offer to buy the house. After one round of counter-offers, the sellers and I agreed on a price and ratified the contract on Friday, just over one week from the day I first spoke to my realtor.

So what's the big deal, you ask? Simply that on August 2nd, I was unhappily contemplating renewing post-divorce apartment lease to enter my fourth year of paying rent that was about to exceed $1000 per month. On October 2nd, less than two months from beginning the process, I'll be moving into a home of my own with about 1,800 square feet on nearly 2/3 of an acre, and my out-of-pocket mortgage payments will be significantly less than I was paying for rent. In fact, I'm pretty sure that my mortgage and utility expenses combined will be about the same, or a little less, than my rental payment alone. And that doesn't even take into account the tax benefits of owning the house and operating a home business there.

What's amazing to me is that God doesn't limit our possibilities, we do that on our own. I believed that God wanted me to look beyond what my limited imagination thought was possible and to boldly ask for what I wanted in my home. After all, where is the testimony in buying a run-down fixer-upper in a neighborhood where I'd be scared to sleep at night because I believed it was the only thing I could afford? Where's the evidence of my faith or God's goodness in that? So, here's my "wish list" and how God responded (in parenthesis):

Deal only with good, decent, honest and fair people (I couldn't have asked for nicer, more trusthworthy people consistently throughout every step of the process - my realtor, my mortgage banker, the home inspector, the title rep, even the sellers have been amazing).
Move before my lease expires on November 30th (I close on October 2, which was my choice, I could have closed sooner than that).
Decent neighborhood (Better than decent, the neighborhood is very nice, quiet and I feel quite safe there).
"Enough" living space, but not too much - I didn't want to spend all my time doing housework (Nearly doubled the size of my living space).
Move-in ready (Other than a good cleaning in the kitchen, and buying a refrigerator the house is move-in ready, including having been freshly re-painted).
Enough yard space for a garden (More than enough space for all the gardening I could ever manage, and to be honest, much more yard than I need).
Plenty of off-street parking (A circular driveway that goes around the back of the house).
At least 2 bedrooms and space for a home office (2 large bedrooms and a 19x12 office/craft room).
Hardwood floors (The entire first floor, except for the kitchen and bathroom, of course).
A screened porch (2 screened porches!).
Closer to my church (Now less than 5 miles/10 minutes).
Fireplace (Got it).
Storage space (walk-up attic space with windows).
Pantry (Walk-in off the kitchen next to the "mud room").
Older, well-loved home (Without a doubt).
Sellers pay all closing costs (Done).
New windows and roof (Already done).
Lots of windows/natural light (Yup).

And, as if all that wasn't enough, there have been some extra added bonuses too. For example, I had no idea that I qualified for the $8000 tax credit, I discovered that the weekend after I move in is the one weekend of the year that my state has a sales-tax holiday on the purchase of major appliances (and I need to buy some), after hours of research online and hours spent in my local Home Depot, I have the confidence (and the cash) to completely update my kitchen, doing most of the work myself which, believe it or not, I'm really looking forward to, AND a rebate at closing from my realty company of about $700, as their way of saying "thank you" for my business, which will pay for a new washer/dryer! From the home security consultant, to the customer service reps at all of the utility companies I'll have to work with, to the locksmith and the handyman I'll have on standby for my "honey do" list, I am truly blessed to have such great people to work with.

If you know me personally, or if you've been following any of my blogs for a while, you'll know that life hasn't been easy for me. I've experienced tragedies and challenges, some totally beyond my control and quite honestly, some of my own making. The reason that I'm sharing what God is doing in my life is not to brag or boast. My reasons are twofold: First and foremost, to give God all of the honor and praise for how he is moving in my life, not because of what I am, or what I've done, but simply because of whose I am. And secondly, in sharing my testimony, both the tragedies and the triumphs, I hope my life will be an example that demonstrates that no matter where we've been, what we've done, or how hopeless our circumstances may appear, God can and does work miracles every day. Despite others telling us, or more importantly, us telling ourselves, that we are defined by our pasts and that we must drag our "mistakes" around with us forever as a constant reminder of all of our "stuff", God doesn't see us as the sum of our mistakes. He uses every circumstances in our lives as an opportunity to help us mature, both spiritually and emotionally. He is ready and able to come live in our hearts and our homes. We just have to open the door and invite Him in.

The gift of time

2009-09-14T20:34:00.003-04:00

Short on cash? Short on gift ideas for the friend who has everything? My friend Irene shared with me a wonderful gift idea that just about anyone would love. The gift of time. Irene has a friend who uses every gift-giving opportunity to give Irene the one thing that she never has enough of - time. Sometimes it's only a few hours. Sometimes it's a weekend. The important thing is that once they agree on a mutually convenient time, this friend allows Irene to decide what she needs help with most, and that's exactly what she gets.

Whether it's planting flowers, pulling weeds or de-cluttering the spare bedroom, this simple, yet extraordinary gift has many benefits. In addition to the obvious benefit of an extra set of hands to tackle a project, there's also the gift of quality time spent among friends. Sometimes all we need is an extra set of eyes to provide a different perspective on how to solve a problem or complete a task. Sometimes the encouragement of a friend is just what we need to get the job done.

Instead of buying a gift for a friend or loved one, next time consider giving them some of your time. More than likely, it's a gift that will bless you both.

A different perspective on art

2009-08-21T18:36:00.001-04:00

This YouTube video is simply amazing.

Special prayer

2009-08-18T19:52:00.004-04:00

I've often commented on how amazed I am about the generosity of some people, and how blessed we are to have the Internet, when it's used properly, of course. Today I discovered the most amazing website. Called TweetYourPrayers.info, anyone in the world can send a prayer via Twitter to this site and they will print your prayer, along with many others, and hand-deliver them to the prayer wall in Jerusalem, for free!

My first instinct was to jump on my Twitter account and send a prayer. Now would be an especially good time to do that since I put an offer on a home today. But, I haven't been able to send a prayer yet. Even though it's free, and presumably I could send as many prayers as I want to, there's something incredibly sacred about this ministry. I refuse to just send any prayer to be placed on that holy wall. I'm going to have to think long and hard about what my prayer will be. The fact that I feel that way reminds me how blessed I truly am.

A clean plate

2009-08-04T07:00:00.000-04:00

I'm big on to do lists. Unfortunately, I'm much better at adding things to my many lists than I am at crossing them off. Yes, I have completion issues.

One thing that helps is to remember to "clean my plate". At least once each week I identify at least three things that I can do that week that when finished, will be completely removed from my list, at least for the time being. In other words, I know that there are recurring tasks, like vacuuming or doing laundry that are crossed off my list one week, only to be added back again the following week. And then there are finite tasks, like taking that big bag of clothing to Goodwill or purging my home office files that I don't have to do often. Getting at least a few items "off my plate" each week gives me a much-needed sense of accomplishment. Now I just need to learn how NOT to fill those newly empty spaces with new tasks.

Waste those time wasters

2009-08-03T21:15:00.000-04:00

When I think of procrastinating, I think of being lazy - not doing what needs to be done. However, I'm beginning to realize that excessive busy-ness can also be a hallmark of procrastination. It's a subversive form of self-denial that enables us to trick ourselves into not doing what needs to be done because we're "too busy". Hence, we can avoid "the work" and the guilt we would otherwise feel for not doing it.

Have you ever had days where you've been busy all day long, but at the end of the day, felt like you haven't accomplished a thing? I think what matters most is figuring out what's important, and spending the bulk of our time and energy focused on those things, and letting the other stuff go. Not only will we feel a great sense of accomplishment, but I for one will probably feel a much greater sense of satisfaction knowing that I've spent the day with my goals and my efforts in alignment. For some great tips on letting go of the need for busywork, visit Zen Habits.

10 tips for staying focused at work

2009-07-31T19:00:00.000-04:00

It's been a struggle, but I'm learning to "go with the flow." It's become relatively easy to do at home, especially since I live alone and I work hard to manage my life with conscious intent. My home environment is like a slow-moving river. I control the direction and the pace of the flow.

However, it's much more difficult to follow the tide in the workplace, especially when it's moving in multiple directions and changing constantly. It's difficult for me to stay focused at work when phones and fax machines are ringing, other people are talking, several people are asking me to do things (often at the same time), client requests are coming in, priorities are changing, the boss is overflowing with ideas... you get the picture.

There is a price associated with losing focus at work, and it's more than reduced productivity. Losing focus also leads to unnecessary stress, anxiety, pressure and feeling lost, overwhelmed, unproductive and more. Like a sailboat that's lost it's compass, losing focus can often leave us feeling uncentered, ungrounded, and aimlessly going in whichever direction the wind blows - whether that's where we need to be headed or not.

Need help remembering to stay focused during the day? Here are some tips that help me (when I remember to use them):

Uni-task. I used to think that the ability to multi-task was a virtue. During my many years as a single, working mother, it undoubtedly was a necessity. But things have changed and so have it. As I learned from my life coach, I'm more productive, and things go much smoother, when I "complete the circle" (finish one thing before starting another). This isn't always possible, but my compromise is to break the task into smaller pieces that can be completed in the time alloted.
Keep a single to-do/action item list. One of the most useful, and most wasteful, inventions of all time has got to be Post-It Notes. They're great when they're used for their intended purpose - to leave a quick note without writing on a document or labeling a stack of papers. They are NOT helpful when dozens of them clutter your workspace, each with a different to do item or thought to remember. It's much more effective to keep a single to-do or action item list and if needed, another list (I use a small notebook) to record ideas as they come to mind.
Break tasks into smaller, more manageable pieces. There's an old saying that the longest journey begins with a single step. That's true when it comes to projects at work too. No matter how huge the task at hand may appear, there's surely a way to break it up into smaller tasks. Doing so helps you be more organized, better prepared and less overwhelmed.
Combine like tasks. It's counter-productive, and a total waste of time, to jump up to walk down the hall to the copier to make a single copy. Unless you need it right away, wait until you need to make several copies.
Limit the number of times you stop to read and respond to e-mail. E-mail is great, but it's a huge time-waster. If you have one of those annoying little pop-up windows that alert you each time a new e-mail comes it, turn it off! If you're like me, it's nearly impossible to resist the urge to peek. When you do check your e-mail, remember that not every email is worth reading or responding to and it's not necessary to subscribe to (or continue to receive) every newsletter ever written. It's hard, but try to delete, respond and/or archive each e-mail as you read it to avoid a junky e-mail box and more time spent re-reading later.
Take frequent breaks. Your brain, your eyes and your back deserve a break, regularly. Plan to take at least one short break each hour that you're working. Although it may seem as if that many breaks are wasting time, they're not. Believe me, you will feel much more refreshed, and productive, if you take care of yourself.
Clear off your desk at the end of each day. Another hard one, but it makes a huge difference. There's nothing that provides a greater sense of accomplishment than ending the day with a clear desk and then starting the next day with the same.
Keep mindful of what's truly important. A lot of things are "urgent", particularly to other people. But it's important to realize that not everything that's urgent is "important. " What IS important is knowing the difference and trying to stay focused on those things that are truly important.
Become a creative problem-solver. Not all work processes are set in stone. Just because something's always been done a certain way doesn't mean that that's the most efficient or productive way to do it. Be on the look-out for ways to cut costs, to reduce energy consumption (electricity and human energy) and to save time.
Pray throughout the day. Nothing helps maintain (or regain) focus like praying. And the best thing about prayer is that you can do it any time, any where.

The answer is there... you just have to listen

2009-07-31T18:32:00.001-04:00

For the past week or so, I've been totally re-energized and itching to start writing again. Last week, I made the commitment to re-launch my book and start planning for the next one. At the moment I said "Yes", despite my fears and anxieties, confirmations have been coming faster than I can keep pace.

Today I found an e-mail message that's been sitting in my inbox unread for the past month. After following the link, I ended up at this post on the Art of Sensitive Living blog. The following sentences felt as if they'd been written just for me:

Do you ever feel a surge of positive energy about something, but then your mind quickly jumps in and says “That’s not for you,” or “Who do you think you are?”

We have glorious visions for ourselves and our lives. These visions come from our intuition. Our inner guidance KNOWS what it is we are here to do, share, and create, and who we are here to be.

Think about that book you’ve longing to write. That project you’ve been dreaming about. Or that business you’ve been wanting to start FOR-EV-ER. Your intuition is saying YES!

But your mind keeps saying No. Uh-uh.

This is the surest path to life dissatisfaction I have ever seen.

If you are called to write, you MUST write.

Well, I guess that settles it!

Free software for peace of mind

2009-07-27T18:53:00.003-04:00

Why waste precious brain cells trying to remember all those pesky passwords? And worse, trying to create and remember different passwords for different sites? KeePass is an open source FREE software that incredibly simple to use. Download a copy, create a master password, then save all of your passwords in a secure file. You can even cut and paste your passwords from your database to the URL.

Imagine how much more brainpower you'll have for fun stuff once you let go of all those passwords! Enjoy.

The way we spend our days

2009-07-24T20:16:00.000-04:00

Have you noticed that there never seems to be enough time to do everything on your to do list? I have, and it frustrates me. However, yesterday I had an "ah-ha" moment. I realized that the answer is not to figure out how to cram more activities into my days. Instead, the answer lies in removing things from my to do list that don't really need to be there. The operative word here is "really", and it's up to me to decide what that's going to mean moving forward.

The writer Annie Dillard is quoted to have said that "the way we spend our days is the way we spend our lives." Wow. When I think about it that way, it really changes my perspective on what's important. I don't want to spend the second half of my life doing things that aren't important or that don't bring joy to me or to someone else. So, it's time to take a long, hard look at what's truly important to me, and the to re-evaluate the way I'm spending my days. Making the conscious choice to align the way I spend my time with my core values (key roles) will not only remove a lot of busywork or OPW (Other People's Work), but will also give me much more time and energy to focus on my ultimate goals.

(t0 be continued)

Pennies from Heaven

2009-07-22T18:23:00.000-04:00

It's time for me to get serious about replenishing my savings account and preparing for retirement. I took the first major step in 2008 - eliminating all of my debt. What a relief! And now I'm always looking for creative ways to reduce costs and save money.

One of my first steps was to sign up for Bank of America's Keep the Change program. I'm sure there are other banks that provide this service, and it's also possible to do it on your own. But, since I'm already a BoA customer and it's a mindless way to save, I decided to do it. In a nutshell, whenever I make a purchase with a debit card (which represents 100% of my expenses other than rent and utilities), the purchase amount is rounded up to the next dollar, and the additional amount is transferred into my savings account. In additiona, BoA matches 10% of my Keep the Change deposits each year (up to an annual total of $250).

Wind chimes

2009-07-21T10:38:00.000-04:00

I heard wind chimes outside my window this morning. That shouldn't come as a surprise because I have two sets of chimes. Yet, it wasn't until I heard them singing this morning that I realized that I haven't heard them in days. Perhaps there hasn't been a breeze when I've been home (and awake). But it's been more likely that I've been so preoccupied with other things that the sound of the chimes hasn't even registered. Not good.

I'm afraid that my relationship with God is like those wind chimes. He is always there, and He's always moving in my life. Sometimes the movements are so subtle that they're unnoticeable to the human eye. But sometimes I'm just not paying attention.

When I hear my wind chimes, the first image that comes to mind is change. During the hot days and nights of summer, the chimes signal cooler breezes and maybe even much-needed rain. When I'm outside and I hear my chimes, I immediately feel a connection to something much much bigger than I am. The expansiveness of the Universe comes to mind and I'm reminded of God's awesome power. The same God that can unleash a massive hurricane can also blow just enough wind to move the tiny chimes on my tiny patio. I feel blessed.

When I'm frustrated by an apparent lack of movement in my life, when things are moving forward on my timetable, when I'm called to simply wait, I need to remember my wind chimes. They're always moving, even if I can't see wind or hear them ring. But when they finally get my attention, I know that the change has already begun.

Welcome to my blog

2009-07-20T19:25:00.001-04:00

Living a life of "soulful abundance" has become a major life goal for me. In fact, after my decision to become a Christian, it's probably the next most important lifestyle choice I've ever made. I've been on this journey for about two years and the results have been profound. I've been thinking about sharing the strategies and insights I'm learning for quite some time, and finally decided to take the plunge and start this blog. I hope you find it useful and meaningful and I invite you to share the journey with me.

What exactly is "soulful abundance?" Dictionary.com defines these two words as follows:

soulful: full of or expressing deep feelings; profoundly emotional.

abundance: an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply; an overflowing fullness; wealth.

The concept of abundance is not new. It's mentioned often in the Bible and it's been gaining popularity lately in its current incarnation, known as The Law of Attraction. The concept first began to take hold for me when I read Simple Abundance. In it, Sarah Ban Breathnacht, defines simple abundance as "an inner journey, a spiritual and practical course in creative living, a tapestry of contentment."

That simple definition contains so much insight. It's an inner journey, meaning that it is ours and ours alone, a journey of our choosing, it comes from within us and is not predicated on external events. We can embark on this inner journey regardless of our external circumstances. We don't need to wait until the bills are paid, the kids are grown, we get married (or divorced), we buy that new house, or we get that new job. We can embark on this journey NOW.

It's both spiritual and practical. It's interesting that both words are included here. So often people focus on spirituality, but they forget that it's faith and love in action that matters. We're talking about a lifestyle, not an abstract theory here.

I love the word creative. As a self-proclained artist (in the very broadest sense of the word), anything that involves creativity definitely has my attention. But what's great about that word in this context is that not only does it inspire me to live my dream of filling my life and home with "art", made by me and by others, but it also reminds me that God and I together are the artists of my life as well. God has given me the opportunity, the resources and the desire to create a life that is pleasing both to Him and to me.

Here's what Sarah has to say about Simple Abundance:

At the heart of Simple Abundance is an authentic awakening, one that resonates within your soul; you already possess all you need to be genuinely happy. The way you reach that awareness is through an inner journey that brings about an emotional, psychological, and spiritual transformation. A deep inner shift in your reality occurs, aligning you with the creative energy of the Universe. Such change is possible when you invite Spirit to open up the eyes of your awareness to the abundance that is already yours.

With all due respect to Ms. Ban Breathnacht, while simplicity is goal and ultimately a by-product, the process is not "simple". It requires a conscious commitment to changing the way we think about our lives, our relationships and our environment. It is a paradigm shift that challenges the choices we make and the motivations behind them. For me, it's been a central theme in my spiritual development, and has also been profoundly emotional - hence my personal preference for the term "soulful abundance."

In upcoming posts, I'll expand more on my thoughts about soulful abundance. I'll also be sharing practical suggestions on how to create more soulful abundance in your life. I'm also planning to develop a set of links in the far right-hand sidebar of online resources and books in print that you may find helpful.

Thanks for visiting and please come back. I invite you to share this exciting journey with me.

A father's love

2008-07-31T10:00:00.001-04:00

I can't find the words to describe this, so I'll just pass it along just as I received it today...

The son asked his father, "Dad, will you take part in a marathon with me?" The father who, despite having a heart condition says, "Yes". They went on to complete that together and even completed other marathons. The father always saying "Yes'"to his son's request of going through the race together. One day, the son asked his father, 'Dad, let's join the Ironman together'. To which, his father said, "Yes''.

For those who don't know, Ironman is the toughest triathlon ever. The race encompasses 3 endurance events; A 2.4-mile ocean swim, a 112-mile bike ride and ends with a 26.2-mile run. Father and son went on to complete the race together. Please view this (Turn your volume on)